“When one door closes another door opens; but we so often look so long and so regretfully upon the closed door, that we do not see the ones which open for us.”
― Alexander Graham Bell
The first week L was in school, I think that’s how myself and T felt. We lost a bit of purpose I guess and all we could see was the closing of a chapter in our lives and the gaping hole it would leave. Ten years of being together every day, learning, laughing, loving and yes a bit of arguing too (and a lot of wrestling, L and T, not me!).
We kind of looked at each other when we’d waved her off into the unknown, ‘What now?’ were the silent words in our puzzled smiles. However hard it felt for me, I know if felt a hundred times worse for T. His best friend in the world, his side-kick was now going to be gone for a large chunk of everyday.
The first day was weird, though we had a familiar home ed group to go to thankfully. T got stuck in with the activities, but he was so quiet.
When L got home on her first day, she was full of stories and excitement.
The next day T decided to try ‘school at home’. He rummaged around and gathered workbooks, set up a desk and sharpened pencils. He spent the day doing ‘book work’, but by the end of the day he decided our normal days were much better, he definitely didn’t want to go to school himself or do ‘school at home’.
We chatted on the sofa about how our days should work now and it was decided that we’d keep everything the same for now, but aim to add in a few things he wanted to try on a gradual basis: cubs, an online engineering course and some volunteer work with animals. We’d continue to build up his basic skills at home using the ‘project-based’ style we had adopted over time and keep up with our normal home ed groups.
I think the time L is in school, however long or short, could be a brilliant opportunity for T. We’ll continue to miss her I’m sure, but we must seek the positive. So with that in mind we set off on a day trip to a Butterfly Park & Farm and concentrated on the kind of learning that really matters to T.
“Let me tell ya. You gotta pay attention to signs. When life reaches out with a moment like this it’s a sin if you don’t reach back… I’m telling you.”
― Matthew Quick,